Bridging the Gap Between Wanting and Having Your Success
What is the difference between successful people and unsuccessful people?
It is as simple as this: Successful people think and talk about what they are creating, and unsuccessful people focus on and talk about what they’re lacking.
Let’s make an important distinction. You see, there is a big difference between “Wanting” and “Having” something.
Wanting: means lacking or absent. Deficient in some part, thing or aspect.
Having: means to possess, to hold, to get, to receive, to experience.
You can have one OR the other, but not both at the same time with any particular object of your desire.
You either have it or you don’t.
So when it comes to your subconscious, if you’re focusing on the “wanting”, i.e. the not having, guess what, you will build stronger neural networks in your brain around the “wanting.”
However, through the power of your subconscious mind, you can focus on the “having” as if it has already happened. Research has shown that your brain doesn’t know the difference between what you’re visualizing inside your mind versus what is happening out there in your reality.
This is a regular practice of elite athletes. They spend as much timing creating the internal mental imagery of their success playing out as they do actually physically practicing. This helps create both the neural pathways in their brain and the muscle memory to consistently deliver on that success.
To put the massive power of your subconscious mind to work for you, here is a 10-step brain hack plan to create your version of a successful life. Make these steps a regular habit, and you will be astonished at the results.
- Decide exactly what you want to create and have. This is usually the biggest problem that people have. They don’t know what they want and then they’re surprised when they don’t get it.
- Write down your goal clearly in every Technicolor detail. A goal that is not written down is merely a wish. When you write it down in full detail, you signal to your subconscious mind that you really want to accomplish this particular goal.
- Write your goal in simple, present tense words that a three year old can understand on a three-by-five index card and carry it with you. Read it each morning after you awake and just before you go to sleep.
- Backwards planning. See your goal achieved and identify all the steps required that it took to bring it to life. Making a list of all these steps intensifies your desire and deepens your belief that the attainment of the goal is already happening.
- Resolve to take at least one step every day from one of the items on your list. Do something every day, even if it is just one baby step, that moves you toward your goal so you can maintain your momentum.
- Visualize your goal repeatedly. See it in your mind’s eye as though it were already a reality. The more clear and vivid your mental picture of your goal, the faster it will come into your life.
- Feel the feeling of success as if your goal were realized at this very moment. Feel the emotion of happiness, satisfaction, and pleasure that you would have once you have achieved your goal. Visualize and feel this success for at least 20 seconds at a time.
- “Fake it till you make it!” Confidently behave as if your subconscious mind was already bringing your goal into reality. Accept that you are moving toward your goal and it is moving toward you.
- Relax your mind. Take time to breathe, pray or mediate each day. Disengage the stress response and engage the relaxation response. A quiet state of mind allows your brain to access newly formed neural pathways.
- Release your goal to your subconscious mind. When you turn your goal over to the power of the universe and just get out of the way, you will always know the right actions to take at the right time.
Starting today, try tapping into this massive power of yours, your subconscious mind, on one goal or idea, and practice it continually until you succeed in achieving that goal.
Make it a game and have fun with it!
The more lightly you hold it, the easier it will be to achieve.
By doing so, you will move from the “positive thinking” of the hopeful person to the “positive knowing” of the totally successful person.
Hit reply and let me know what you’re creating!
To your success!
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Michele Molitor, CPCC, PCC is the CEO of Nectar Consulting, Inc. Working with executives and entrepreneurs worldwide, Michele brings over 25 years of experience, strategic business savvy and intuitive insights to her clients.
Her unique inside-out approach is a culmination of years of study in the realms of emotional intelligence, neuroscience, physics, psychology, sales, marketing and spiritual teachings to help catalyze shifts in your thinking, eliminate mental/emotional blocks and rewire your brain for greater confidence and success. All to enhance your capacity as a leader, build high performing teams and exponentially increase bottom line results.
As a nationally recognized speaker, certified executive coach, consultant, trainer, writer, former radio show host and dot com survivor, Michele’s passion for helping others hone their leadership skills is conveyed through all aspects of her work and writing. She has co-authored 2 books and has variety of published articles on CNN, SelfGrowth, Lifehack and The Mogul Mom.
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