This Change Management Coach needs to drink her own kool-aid.
As someone who is currently facing a great deal of upheaval and change in my personal life, I have recently been practicing a lot of self-coaching. It’s good to know that what I advise others to do, works on me, too. Jim Rohn said, “You cannot speak that which you do not know. You cannot share that which you do not feel. You cannot translate that which you do not have. And you cannot give that which you do not possess.” So I’m feeling pretty good about practicing what I preach. <Insert kick in the pants here.>
What do I know to be true? Here are three simple things to do when you fear the light at the end of the tunnel just might be a train:
Get a grip. It’s easy to lose perspective during times of uncertainty. Take a step back and a deep breath and ask yourself, “In the grand scheme of things is this really that bad?” That “grand scheme of things” is going to be different for everyone so this is very personal to you and you alone. I like to play the “What’s the worst thing that can happen” game – once I’ve identified that absolutely worst thing, and assessed its’ likelihood of occurring, I usually have a healthier perspective.
Count your blessings. Please don’t throw anything at me. When I’m worried or plagued with doubt, I hate when people say “Count Your Blessings.” But I’m saying it. Gratitude does wonders for your attitude. Again, this will be unique to everyone but when I think of all I’ve been given, the grace I’ve experienced, and measure it against the pain and suffering readily visible around me, I feel pretty ashamed.
Remember the Serenity Prayer. It’s not just for followers of a 12 step program – it’s a mantra for life.
- Can I do anything to change the situation? If not, set it aside – there’s no point making yourself sick about it.
- Even if I can’t change the situation is there something I can do to better position myself to navigate effectively? Absolutely yes – this is where you can take back some of the control and feel less victimized.
- Know the difference – this is the final element in managing change gracefully. Once you’ve identified the distinction between what you can and can’t change accept your decision and stick to it. Forgive yourself for not being super human.
That’s it – short and sweet. I have many tips and techniques in my Change Management Toolkit but these are my three favorites. Tried and tested and proven successful many times – because, well, change happens frequently. Let me know how they help you, my friend.
Pattie Vargas, Principal and Founder, The Vargas Group, is a frequent conference speaker on the topics of change management, organizational development, personal resilience and issues facing women in the workplace. As a John Maxwell Certified Coach, Teacher and Speaker, she provides seminars, keynote speaking, and coaching to move you and/or your team or organization in the desired direction to reach your goals.
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